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Monday thoughts – Why are women held to a different standard than men and why is our government allowing this?

It’s a beautiful Monday afternoon, mild in weather and close to one of my all-time favorite holidays. While I try my best to keep a positive state of mind with the season rapidly approaching, I find my mind wandering to darker subjects. In these trying times I think it’s hard for anyone to stay positive, especially with opposition coming in full force from all directions─ people angry with the state of things and looking for anything to blame on others.

This is a rant, and my own personal opinion.

I watched my aunt fume over Biden ‘ruining the country’ and real history being taught at schools. Not just the traditional founding fathers nonsense, but the truth on slavery and wrongdoings as well. Sorry, but that is history and your children need to be taught about why it should never happen again. If you have a problem with truth or get defensive over it, you might want to take a harder look at yourself. Don’t your children deserve the truth? It makes me increasing sad to realize that there is a real disturbing trend of people that are buying into a zealot-level conservativism. They bring it into our business, playgrounds with children soaking all of this up like sponges, in the store, on the t.v., on the internet, brainwashing the elder generation that buys into old conservative ideals. The old conservatives were something else, really trying their best to fight for what was right. Teddy Roosevelt was a prime example of leadership. He got it done. These modern day jokes are nothing more than bullies, corruption galore, heartless business men that are taking advantage of the poor and under-educated. Do I side with any one party? No, I do not. Corruption is absolutely nothing new and all parties have it. Even independents, and green parties─ those claiming to be for the people. While I don’t buy into the Kool-Aid of conspiracy theorists (whom are also usually zealots in their own way, just like far-leftists) there is some merit in mudslinging to distract the public. You keep people fired up, they focus on blaming a mass following of a certain party that fosters hate between the people.

Divide the people, gerrymander, take bribes, treat others like garbage, commit the most heinous sexual acts without repercussions, get out of millions of dollars in taxes, rob people of their rights (especially women and minorities) and have the audacity to try and represent the people and somehow succeed in elections?

Just in the state of Texas alone, there are more regulations on my body and reproduction organs than guns. You can walk into any gun-show and have a wide selection of anything your heart might desire. The background check is a joke and any and all guns don’t have to be registered on your driver’s license. But god forbid a woman have the audacity to make an important life choice for her and an unborn entity. What kind of shit life awaits a child whose parent(s) want nothing to do with it? My mother was a shining example of this and I was reminded of it every. single. day. It made her bitter, spiteful, and apathetic to anything going on in my life. If you think this doesn’t happen all the time, you are terribly wrong.

How quickly would the state change it’s tone if we had massive regulations on the state being responsible for abandoned children and paying for natal care? How about having to assist single parents with schooling, feeding, and clothing that child? While it’s a tired argument, it’s a correct one─ no one wants to pay for a child to be taken care of, they want women to deal with it themselves (aka conservatives little fuck you to women for having sex outside of marriage without a husband and therefore should be punished for it.). No one that is pro-life gives two shits about that child’s life, they are pro-birth. That is backwards to even their core beliefs, you know why? You say that someone should take responsibility for a child─ neat, what if they they can’t afford that or have zero support systems? What argument are you going to come back with? That the woman is responsible for her own problems and should suck it up? Sure, ok. So, she busts her butt and it still isn’t enough for two to survive so she has to apply for aid. But, you say that people that live off of financial aid are lazy and shouldn’t be allowed to take all of your hard earned tax dollars. (which by-the-way, have you ever actually looked into where your tax dollars go? It isn’t to the people. Dallas has had millions of peoples tax dollars mysteriously disappear, or turned into a non-functioning bridge. Go on, look into your own city. It’s pretty depressing.)

So, back to the real issue at hand─ this is all an underhanded bullshit way to corner women into needing men to survive. Let’s just call it what it is, absolute control over women’s bodies and their lives. You know what the solution is? You don’t like your tax dollars used for people to just survive because they chose to keep a child they can’t afford, therefore costing you way more than forcing un-wanted pregnancies─

pay for birth control instead.

But guess what, you won’t and I think you know why you won’t.

It isn’t about helping ‘protect women’ and ‘thinking about women’s lives’ or about ‘having proper support before getting pregnant’, or ‘protecting the child before it’s born’ absolutely not. Many people buy into this, not because they have nefarious intentions but because it is what they were taught. And they honestly believe that it is the right way to be and they are helping others. That is not what any of this is about and you can’t expect someone that was raised on these ideals to know any better. What history has shown is no different thousands of years ago versus today─ no matter the amount of reason you present to someone else, they will dig their heels into the ground and back up their viewpoint. No one wants to seem like a fool or believe that they have bought into some sort of sham or way of life their entire life. It took me years to have an open mind towards other’s thoughts and opinions. It isn’t as though I don’t understand where their heart is, or why they believe that way because I did too once upon a time.

Ladies, men in charge do not have your interests in mind. Because heaps of them are in the stone age and taught based off of a bible that was written by men, for men and altered from original text to fit the European way of life and culture and then adapted to the new Americas and its culture, and then modern white, American men and its culture. White American culture─ based off of a non-white, presumably middle-eastern man, in a completely different culture from our own. What.

Have any of you been to a southern Baptist, or Pentecostal church? Ridiculous. Women have to wear skirts, they can’t cut their hair, they can’t wear makeup, many believe they have to give birth until they physically and mentally can’t give birth anymore. No low neckline shirts, no tight clothing, no shirt sleeves above the elbow, no gender-neutral clothing including pants, must remain ‘pure’ for their husbands.

Men’s rules: no hair below their ears, or touching their collars. Hmm.

While all religion in many cultures harp on abstinence on both sides, it is more loosely enforced on men and extremely strict on women.

The biggest insult is how women are viewed. It’s about men making sure that women ‘stay pure’ for men. It is about massive amounts of misunderstanding on how the female body works. This horrible incorrect nonsense is taught to our children, shaming their natural instincts instead of building them up and preparing them for the real world. Sexual education is a joke here. The only education is to not have sex, the end. But, it goes deeper than that. Women are even taught in front of boys that if they have sex before marriage your husband gets the raw end of the deal with a busted vagina. Nothing there about protection, or safety, or taking care of your body, or birth control─ Ladies, your hoo-ha is men’s property and you’re ruining it.

So instead it’s about letting the ‘boys be boys’ and sleep around but women are to stay virtuous. You little shits in no way shape or form care about women, you care about us not being spoiled goods like some sort of human garbage you can pile your shit on until we sit quietly at the bottom of it, losing our voice and only obeying you.

With all my heart and without remorse, screw you.

Control is all you are after disguised as care. The worst part? You know others truly believe in something you don’t and are manipulating them and using them for political advantage and power to the fullest extent. And we support them.

Just my rant on a Monday afternoon.

xoxoxo-Grey

Hell’s Gate – Graphic Novel Sneak Peek

Without further adieu, here it is─ a sneak peek of my graphic novel to be released this year. The story will have a manga-like inspiration, however, there will be panels of more American-style panels as well. I have a real love for all comics, and styles. My goal is to create a blending of the two. The first release will be in English, the second in Japanese. I hope you all enjoy this small preview.

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Much love,

xoxo

─ C

Top places Online for Nerdy Gals to Socialize

You want to know what the most frustrating part in all of this was? When I googled ‘best nerdy sites for girls’ I got nerdy dating websites. Man, I want to nerd out about which catwoman/batwoman story arcs I liked best, or about the time movies actually got it right when adapting from my most loved  comics. Not have to worry about the mating game constantly. kthx. geek-girls-bloggers

Something that I stumbled across? A current FB group called Geek Girls and Bloggers that is great for nerdy gals and its community. It can be found here.

 

Ok, so, FB yeah─ yawn. We all know about groups on there. But what about communities that dedicate themselves to this kind of love and drive for all things fabulously nerdy?

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First of my list is Geek Girl. Love it. Love the events, and love it’s cause. Their mission:

is to have a more diverse workforce in tech, create a stronger tech bond between children and their parents, and create a future where every child can become their own Tech Superhero.

And though it serves mostly as a means of education, what better way to socialize than meet others with a passion such as yours?

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One of my all-time favs is Black Girl Nerds  it’s everything you would think and more. From the top trending nerdy chic, to real topics that are discussed about the human condition. It’s warm, it’s glorious, do yourself a favor and go check it out.

 

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Next up on my list is Geek Girl Brunch It combines my two favorite things on the planet: Nerdy – everything – and real gals talking about it, and FOOD, glorious food. They have events and it’s a little of old-school meets new school. It’s great! Especially for introverts like me.

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Geek Girl Penpals  is so much fun. Why? Because it’s international. And when else can I use my mad Japanese skills than talk with ladies from the East coast. And way, way East Coast. Seriously, some of my all-time best friends come out of Japan and China and I’m so very happy to have chats with them and catch up on all the things that are slow moving in the US. You can even share snail mail and tons of activities together. Go ahead, get your nerdy on.

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Seriously, if you aren’t part of the Female Blogger Group you need to get on it! There are some amazing blogs out there with some amazing how-to’s on Cosplays, costuming, comics, shows, manga─ you name it! Get on it, you’re missing out.

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What better than a cause for something amazing? The first time I saw this, I was extremely excited for what Kimberly Bryant was trying to do. It’s a huge community impact and it’s amazing: Black Girls Code is a real way to reach out and help those in need and educate the masses. Not only are women in tech starting to increase, but now we have programs to help minorities, and that my friends, is an amazing thing.

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Are you a fan of the Goth Community or don’t quite fit into the nerdy niches/pop culture nerdom? Then I have good news! Jillian Venters founded The Gothic Charm School . She is referred to as the Fairy Goth Mother of the subculture community. She literally wrote the book on goth questions.

No longer are the days that this lady has to sit on Deviantart and swim through tides of inappropriate private messages just to relate to my fellow nerdy gals. Here’s to hoping that there is way more in the future.

What are some of your favorite nerd communities and nerd for a cause groups?